NLP & Common Sense Guide for Family Well-Being
by Roger Ellerton PhD, CMC
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What a Powerful Resource This is for Parents
Review by Brian Walsh PhD, author of Unleashing Your Brilliance. For more information, see www.WalshSeminars.com.
Roger Ellerton's newest book - Parents' Handbook: NLP and Common Sense Guide for Family Well-Being adapts the breadth of Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) to suit parents' needs very well.
Many people pay thousands to attend NLP courses with live practice sessions to learn skills that are transferable to academia, management, therapy, and life in general.
In more than twenty years of study, I have read many books about NLP. Roger Ellerton's is certainly one of the easiest to read. It has the depth and breadth to give anyone a solid introduction to the power of NLP's tools and techniques.
Into it he weaves practical non-NLP approaches to communications and success, and, as a specialist in accelerated learning, I am especially pleased by his use of mind maps, stories, examples, and exercises. I am also thrilled that he includes a section on effective learning to help parents in mentoring their children.
Yes, there is advantage to reading content in the order it's written, but you can still check the contents table and go straight to any section that grabs your attention. That you're drawn first to any particular part probably means that it's the more relevant to your life or that of your family at the moment. You can always come back to it later to reread it with newer perception and understanding.
Let me be clear. This book is comprehensive, and it might seem overwhelming on first opening. However, you can be sure that if you successfully employ even only one of its techniques or skills, you will be rewarded for years. Why? Simply just because better parent-child communication lasts a lifetime.
The Ultimate Guide to a Fulfilled Family
Review by Marcia Freespirit, CEO, JimSam Inc. Publishing www.jimsaminc.com.
Roger Ellerton's Parents' Handbook is a tremendous resource for parents. This guide gives superb advice, tips, and techniques that have been proven to work. Improve your relationships with your children, understand what motivates them and reduce the stress and strife in your home.
Ellerton's broad experience and success with his techniques back up his advice. The situations are real, the advice is honest and at times, hard to swallow, but it works. Whether you want to improve communication in your family, or need a lifeline to prevent serious and sad outcomes with your children, this is the book for you.
This book takes time to read. You need to take your time, digest the content and share with your family. If you are intent on improving your relationships, it won't happen overnight, but it CAN happen!
This should be on the bookshelf in every home.
Highly Recommended for Parents Who Want to Make a Difference in Their Families
Review by Kim McLeod, a.k.a. Grandma K. Kim is a parent educator and child and youth counsellor, who brings 20 years of life skills and counselling experience into educating families and professionals on “guilt-free parenting” and specializes in healthy relationships between mothers and daughters. She is the author of Wishing: diaries of a teen pregnancy and can be reached at www.GrandmaK.ca.
The information in this book is easy to process and has a reasonable and logical sequence as you progress through it. The layout is pleasant and the sequential formatting of steps and tools for parents is very helpful.
Parents today need more assurance that they are capable and have valuable parenting skills. Parents are hungry for assurance that they are OK without feeling incapable or disempowered. This is where the brilliance of Ellerton's book shines for this reviewer. He has woven the information into a handbook that makes the invitation to practice the parenting tools easy and non-threatening.
Ellerton describes the six roles of parenting and it's here that the handbook becomes a wonderful functioning tool for parents. He takes time to encourage the reader (parents) to consider the characteristics of their unique roles and those of their children. The theoretical openings of the book begin to come alive for families. Ellerton’s layout of information for each parental role is brilliant! It allows the reader to assess, recognize and adjust their personal characteristics in relationship to their children and their desired outcome for family well-being.
As a professional who works with families - parents and children - I found this book to be an easy read with many useful tools and ideas. I readily recommend this book to the families I work with. The price of this book is more than reasonable given the market of parenting books and most certainly has the capacity to pay for itself with the outcome of contented and functioning families.
A Book to Definitely Share with Parents
Review by Joyce M. Gilmour, Editor & Book Reviewer, www.editingtlc.com.
Roger Ellerton's Parents’ Handbook is based on the concepts of NLP which is neuro-linguistic programming. "NLP is about how you communicate with yourself, and based on the results of this, how you engage in conversation with others." I appreciated a quote from Mr. Ellerton, since it is something that I share with parents at all of my parenting classes that I facilitate: "Simply put, when you become a parent you are not handed a manual that will answer all your questions or cover all situations. For many, the 'manual' you bring to parenting is the one you learned from observing your parents."
Mr. Ellerton has put together an excellent resource for parents/families to put tools in parent's "toolkits" which are strategies to help all members of the family learn how to get to know themselves and others. With these "tools" people will improve their communication skills and be able to achieve their dreams. I particularly appreciated the chapter about the six primary parenting roles. I feel the strategies shared here help to show parents the many roles and ways to help their children through life: caretaker and guide, coach, teacher, mentor, sponsor, and awakener. I think it is very important to see our roles as parents from different perspectives. I feel it is essential for parents to learn and understand the many different ways their children need guidance throughout life.
Reading this book and practicing the strategies and learning all there is to know about NLP will take time and effort. Parenting, especially GOOD parenting, needs both our time and our effort. It is THE most important job in the whole world, the ONLY one that doesn’t come with any training. This book will definitely be one that I share with parents in the parenting classes that I facilitate. Buying this book and spending the time to work through it is a small investment for a lifetime of better relationships in our families.
Be the Parent You Want to Be
Review by Val Kinjerski, MSW, PhD, RSW, author of Rethinking Your Work: Getting to the Heart of What Matters. For more information, see www.kaizensolutions.org .
Looking for ways to become a better parent? To stay in communication with your child? Address beliefs or habits that stand in the way of you becoming the parent you would like to be? Then Roger Ellerton’s Parents' Handbook: NLP and Common Sense Guide for Family Well-Being is the resource you are looking for.
Drawing on neuro-linguistic programming, more commonly known as NLP, the Parents’ Handbook provides you with tools, techniques and approaches for healthy parenting. It is a resource that not only parents, but anyone seeking to improve their relationship with children and youth, will find enlightening. As an organizational consultant, I use and promote many of these techniques in the workplace.
The book is divided into eight chapters. The first three chapters set the stage by helping the reader to understand the basics of NLP and using that information to better understand themselves, their spouse and their children. There are so many good ideas throughout these early chapters, but these two set the tone for the rest of the book.
The following three chapters provides techniques for improving communication, tools for change, and steps to achieve your desired outcomes. Examples of techniques include developing rapport, reframing, anchoring and mirroring. A key idea in the toolkit is "changing your perception, changes your reaction." It is amazing how changing a few words can change an experience.
Chapter 7 explores the six primary parenting roles: caretaker and guide, coach, teacher, mentor, sponsor, and awakener. This chapter is filled with tips about how parents need to change their parenting style to correspond with their child’s stage of growth and need.
Chapter 8 recaps the material and then provides strategies for effective learning. When you read that 50% of your child’s brain nerve cells are connected by the age of six and that ages six to twelve are the most formative years for developing basis skills, it is not hard to see how critical parenting is during these important years.
While the book is engaging and an enjoyable read, your parenting style is unlikely to change until you begin to apply the strategies put forth by the author.
As a parent of a 17 year old, I am glad that I have a copy in my bookshelf.
SELF IMPROVEMENT / PARENTING